Blog.

Let us Pray.

Ok. I know I have this whole missionary thing going on, and I’m married to a pastor, and I sincerely love Jesus, but, despite all that, somehow I found myself living a life without prayer. I mean, I still pray occasionally, like before dinner when we have company, but lately it hasn’t been often, and…

50 Shades of.. OMG ARE YOU KIDDING ME WITH THIS?!

The story got everyone talking and the sex scenes got everyone tingling, and then, to the horror of English lit majors and book publishers everywhere, E.L. James lusty novel, 50 Shades of Grey, spread across the nation like a literary strain of herpes. I read the whole book. I sat through the whole movie. I survived the 50 Shades…

A Missionary’s Position on 50 Shades of Grey

For the record, yes, I read the book and, yes, I watched the movie. And before we get into my review of them both, I want to offer you this tidbit of advice from the bottom of my crooked little heart — For the love of God, if you haven’t already subjected yourself to either of these atrocities,…

Not exactly “Newsworthy”, but here we are…

I keep hearing that podcasts are the new blog, so I guess it’s a good thing Luke Norsworthy was kind enough to have me on his podcast, Newsworthy with Norsworthy.   You should not listen to it. I promise. Instead, you should go over to Luke’s site and pick out a different interview, like this one…

Because Sharing is Caring, Vol. 203

The internet can be a cesspool of ardent opinion, gossip mongering, unrestrained certainty, and condescending correction. Or it can be awesome. Sometimes between scrolling through raging Twitter battles and rolling my eyes at Facebook comment threads, I actually come across something useful, or funny, or good. When this happens, I feel a deep sense of…

Guilt vs Shame, part 2: There’s a BIG Difference

This is the second half of a two part series on Shame from my real life friend and legit theologian, Libby Vincent. Be sure to read part 1, here! ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. The BIG Difference Between Guilt and Shame In my last post, I talked about guilt. Now I want to talk about shame. I’ve been working…

Guilt vs Shame, part 1: Can Guilt Be Good?

I know this is weird, but not all of the brilliant people in the world write and post blogs from which we may glean wisdom and inspiration. Crazy, right?! I know! But it’s true – some awesome people can only be found in real life. I love it when I get to introduce you to one of my…

Depression Is Not A Scandal

For the second time in a month my big, beige, suburban community is mourning the loss of a life to suicide. A few short weeks ago, we despaired to learn we’d lost 12 year old Ronin Shimizu. Last weekend we lost another friend, a 46 year old father of two, to the vice-like grip of…

Grateful

I’ve shared my heartbreak on social media, but I realize I haven’t posted anything on the blog in quite a long time, so for those of you who only hear from me when a new blog post pops up in your inbox, this may be the first time you’re hearing the terrible news that my…

I’m doing WHAT with WHO?!

As I write this, I’m sitting on a plane headed to Seattle, where I’ll catch another plane to Amsterdam, where I’ll catch another plane to Rwanda, where I’ll catch one last flight which will, mercifully, bring me to my final destination. Assuming none of these planes explodes in a fireball or crashes into the sea,…

Divorce, Death, and Resurrection

…I’m getting divorced. So, there it is. Now you know. It has taken me awhile to figure out how to share this very personal news with you. In fact, I’ve already been separated for nearly a year, and I’ve debated not saying anything at all, just letting the fact that I was married for decades…

My Grandma Was An Artist

Growing up, few things made me feel cooler than telling people, “My Grandma is an artist.” Her framed paintings still hang on the walls of my childhood home like windows that only open onto stormy seas and quiet pastures, telling stories of tall ships and old barns, and of meadows, and deserts, and ponds, and all…

Censoring the Very Worst Missionary: A How To Guide

Several concerned citizens have come forward to lament the use of…uh…let’s just say the coarse language in my book, The Very Worst Missionary: A Memoir or Whatever.  Not because they have any kind of personal objection to my willingness to use all the words available. Nope, they’re upset because they feel I have an important message to share about…

Getting from Pen to Published

YOU GUYS… After eight years of blogging (and a solid couple years of book writing), last week I watched in utter disbelief as my profanity-laced, progressive-Christian, anti-establishment, niche-as-fuck, spiritual memoir became a #1 Best Seller in Christian Theology and spiked at #65 out of all the books on Amazon. ALL THE BOOKS! Naturally, when The…

I Blame You

I never meant to be a writer. In fact, I became a writer quite unexpectedly in my thirties, and for a long time I couldn’t even say it out loud. It just felt so icky and self-important to have a job title that implies you have something significant to say and that somebody out there…

The Church of All Cynics

As I have traveled all over the world, I’ve met pastors, elders, administrators, missionaries, professors, students, and everyone in between, who are dying to spill their guts in frustration over their churches or The Church, or both. Usually both. They suspect their churches may have grown over programmed and under challenged. They’re annoyed with the music,…