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The Church of All Cynics

As I have traveled all over the world, I’ve met pastors, elders, administrators, missionaries, professors, students, and everyone in between, who are dying to spill their guts in frustration over their churches or The Church, or both. Usually both. They suspect their churches may have grown over programmed and under challenged. They’re annoyed with the music,…

Hello again.

Hi. So showing up here after more than a year feels a little like walking over dead grass in summer and wondering if it will come back to life when the dry season is over. Was the death of this blog just a seasonal quieting down? I guess we’re about to find out. I never…

Last Days in the Desert

A long time ago, in a desert far, far away, I found myself standing in a half-circle with a handful of professional Christians on a film set in the middle of effing nowhere. I was invited there, along with a pile of smart people, for a sneak peek at a little indie art house production,…

Missionaries probably shouldn’t be jealous of a strippers. But sometimes they are.

I’m really looking forward to speaking the Love Made Claim annual fundraiser this Saturday, in Denver, CO. If you’re in the area, YOU SHOULD TOTALLY COME! (ticket info here) Anyway, I was sitting here preparing my talk, when I remembered this old post from back in the day, so I thought I’d throw it out there again, for old times sake. I…

How Going on Vacation Might be Better than Going on a Mission.

The other day someone asked if we have any big plans for this summer, and El Chupacabra and I looked at each other and smiled because we do have big plans for this summer. We have really big plans… WE’RE TAKING OUR FAMILY TO AFRICA! WHAT?! I KNOW!!!  I CAN’T BELIEVE IT EITHER!!! SQUEEEEE!!!!!!!! When we…

You Can Never Have Too Much Sofa

We bought our little house in California one million years ago, in 1997. And it’s a good thing, too, because that was the last year our oldest child was our only child, and it was also the last year we could ever have afforded to buy a little house in California. It’s a typical, boring,…

You can’t give what you don’t have.

The first time I flew on an airplane, I watched the safety demonstration like my life depended on it. As instructed, I checked that my seatbelt was properly secured, identified the nearest emergency exits, learned how to inflate the life-vest, and noted that my seat cushion doubled as a flotation device. I was keenly interested…

Jesus, save Christmas.

I promised myself I wasn’t going to be a total grinchhole about Christmas this year. I also promised I’d have the tree up before December 10th, get all the shopping done and gifts wrapped early, give beautiful plates of homemade goodies to all of my friends and neighbors, and not eat my weight in fudge.…

When we are all Priests and Levites.

On Friday, the world fell to its knees in sorrow as the media brought us the horrible aftermath of a coordinated, multi-site, terrorist attack on Paris. The outpouring of love and support was swift as status updates declared our collective heartbreak, Instagram became a sea of candle lit prayer and Eiffel tower peace signs, and…

Before you get that tattoo…

On my 40th birthday, I went totally crazy and got drunk and blacked out and woke up with a huge tattoo. RELAX. I’M JUST MESSING WITH YOU. I mean, I did get a tattoo on my birthday – but it wasn’t a surprise and I wasn’t drunk. …Unless you can get drunk on the Cracker…

Not exactly “Newsworthy”, but here we are…

I keep hearing that podcasts are the new blog, so I guess it’s a good thing Luke Norsworthy was kind enough to have me on his podcast, Newsworthy with Norsworthy.   You should not listen to it. I promise. Instead, you should go over to Luke’s site and pick out a different interview, like this one…

Because Sharing is Caring, Vol. 203

The internet can be a cesspool of ardent opinion, gossip mongering, unrestrained certainty, and condescending correction. Or it can be awesome. Sometimes between scrolling through raging Twitter battles and rolling my eyes at Facebook comment threads, I actually come across something useful, or funny, or good. When this happens, I feel a deep sense of…

Guilt vs Shame, part 2: There’s a BIG Difference

This is the second half of a two part series on Shame from my real life friend and legit theologian, Libby Vincent. Be sure to read part 1, here! ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. The BIG Difference Between Guilt and Shame In my last post, I talked about guilt. Now I want to talk about shame. I’ve been working…

Guilt vs Shame, part 1: Can Guilt Be Good?

I know this is weird, but not all of the brilliant people in the world write and post blogs from which we may glean wisdom and inspiration. Crazy, right?! I know! But it’s true – some awesome people can only be found in real life. I love it when I get to introduce you to one of my…

Depression Is Not A Scandal

For the second time in a month my big, beige, suburban community is mourning the loss of a life to suicide. A few short weeks ago, we despaired to learn we’d lost 12 year old Ronin Shimizu. Last weekend we lost another friend, a 46 year old father of two, to the vice-like grip of…

This is A Traumatic New Years Eve Awakening

So. It’s New Years Eve and I don’t do resolutions, like ever, but today when I was getting dressed at noon, something awful happened…something truly terrible…and it forced me take a long, hard look in the mirror. What I saw in my own reflection made me take stock of my entire life, my choices, my…

Christmas, exactly.

You know that song, “The First Noel?” The one where an angel appears and tells some chilly field hands to get up and follow a totally obvious star to Jesus?… Every time I hear it, it makes me wanna kick a shepherd. I’m telling you, those shepherds didn’t know what a sweet deal they were…

The Fall of Christmas

(Today a terrible tragedy hit my community, and I’m reminded that some people wake to Christmas mourning. A timely #TBT post from December 2013. ) So. Our Christmas tree fell over.  It had been leaning for a while (like, since the second we put it up) and then, finally, after a few days, it succumbed to gravity…

The Very Worst T-Shirts Are Here

 If you follow along on Facebook, or Twitter, or Instagram, or Pinterest (Seriously. What the hell, you guys. Why are there so many things???), then you already know about this… Seriously. This is a thing. And so is this. *ahem* Gentlemen. …I don’t even know what to say. Except that, yes, I have one. And…

Actually, the Thought Doesn’t Count

It’s Thanksgiving. Can you believe it?! Thanksgiving day means the Holiday Season is upon us… and that makes everything inside of me want to run away and live in a cave for the next month.  I know I should be excited because it’s THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR and all that crap, but I…